Right…I haven’t blogged in ages because I just haven’t found the time. I’ve kinda just been enjoying work, living a brand new chapter and trying to be as ‘on point’ with it as I can. It’s fabulous. I’m the luckiest kitten on the block and like i’ve said continuously over the past couple weeks…I sort of feel blessed to be around such great people. I’m loving it, you get that…my life couldn’t be better right now.
The art of dating…
Okay, so i’m gonna go straight into it, as you know how much i despise a back track when it comes to writing out my life as I go along. (Thank you for reading by the way. We’re doing better than ever and it’s still being read in almost 200 different countries, on every continent of the world and so forth. I’m really grateful..you know that…Life feels really charmed.)
Okay, so let’s rewind and let me bring you back in time and into my world, with a shimmie.
There’s this guy. A new guy. I refer to him as ‘Singapore business guy.’ I’ve briefly chatted about him with spurts and winks…but yes..I finally met him for what we’re calling ‘after work drinks.’ As always right now, i have an inbox full of suitors. I’m single and on the search of ‘the man of my dreams’…i’m in a good place emotionally and technically not searching during my search, as i’m a true believer that the guy will just come find you, do the leg work, sweep you off your feet and make you his…and only his…if he really wants you. If he doesn’t…he’s not that bothered. And that’s not so bad..it’s just life, it’s just connections and ofcourse that thing we call timing. I believe that you meet the right guy at the right time..and you can only hope that you might have a ‘connection’ where in which you both can’t help but do a lifetime of love. Everyone wants that. Some people are coupled up and not even feeling the certain ‘ooh laa’ that you need to feel. Some people are single and not realizing that they have such a connection with a being. All sorts. It’s complex usually, but easy with the right person…because it will just happen without your control.
Okay…so this guy. I obviously fancy him, or i wouldn’t have done drinks with him. I went straight after work, so i wasn’t necessarily all ‘Wunna glam’…just me, just normal and just there with a toilet spritz in the mirror and a smile. I think i took sassiness also…but that came by accident. 😉
So when you meet someone that you’ve been talking to and you’ve felt a written word energy, it’s always a bit terrifying when you do our face to face meet up, isn’t it? As you don’t know what to expect or if they will like what they see. Right?
So, this guy is hot, is smart, is charming…honest…states he’s into me…and well…we just have this ‘pull’ that we can’t really seem to avoid..even when we try. It’s what I call chemistry. He’s my front runner…he’s someone that i’d actually go for…as he’s not really ‘on paper’ all good and he’s not really all in my mind that bad…but he’s sexy and we’re very much aligned. We’re really similar creatures and we’ve discovered each other by accident..well nothing is ever by accident…we went with it, because we wanted to…Get it?
I arrive in the area, I walk in…and he’s already messaged me telling me to ‘turn left.’ I do, i see him, the place is sort of calmly bustled with folk, it’s dim lit, black, red lighting with a chandelier over the bar. It feels sort of table candle lit…and there’s a mood about the bar…It’s sort of what I would call a after work drinks, cocktail bar.
I see him. I’m impressed already as he’s looks even better than he does in his pictures and he’s confident. He’s not terrified. He’s very comfortable with ‘the chat.’
I sit down opposite him on a table for two and we begin talking…It’s sexy, it’s filled with charm..but it’s pleasantly normal…a even though i was a little panicked because i hate not looking my best…(I did tell him that..he was in his after work suit) we got along well…in a non forced, friendly, but sexy kinda way?? Does that make sense?
We call the waitress over and order to whisky sours, which is my favourite cocktail right now and I guess his also? And we chat about everything..the things going on in his life, my life…and our lives ‘maybe’ combined. Lol. We’ve actually spoken a lot, so it wasn’t really so weird…as we both feel connected anyway and we’re both really open about everything as we’re in the same boat when it comes to goodness and badness…and well..chatting and flirting seems to come easily to us both. It’s bizarre as we’re both sort of skin to the wind, non judgemental…yet at the same time…dipped in this sense of tradition and what we want.
He’s charming. He knows what he’s doing..and i sort of like that. He knows himself well and he knows women well. That’s good as i know myself well and yeah..I know guys pretty well! 🙂
He’s 3 years older than I am, so we’re also in the same tick box. That’s good as nowadays i’m not liking younger. Yet, he’s a young spirited 38 year old…he looks younger than his age. He’s charming, he’s sexy…he knows it. So i would reckon a guy who pretty much gets what he wants when it comes to women.
We talked the whole time about all sorts…it was never weird, we’re quite similar..but there’s an ENERGY. It’s so crazy it’s AWFUL, as it’s filled with that good old chemistry that you can’t at all shake off, which makes everything frustrating and dangerous…It’s a sexy sexy, chemistry that is a connection that both of us can’t really avoid…too easily.
It’s kinda like a loss of control…even though we’re both kinda controlled, in a weird passionate way. Yet we’d build up to this meet up.
I’m telling him he’s sexy, he’s telling me that i’m the ‘prettiest girl’ he has EVER had sat infront of him and that i could have anyone i want. I’m smiling and shrugging it off like he’s a charmer…but i hope he actually meant it, as that’s a pretty good thing to say to any Wunna, that you meet. 🙂 This guy is actually in a situation right now, that is complex which makes my life much harder…UGH…so it means that i can’t actually just have what I want, if i wanted…as, as open minded as I am…and like i said to him i don’t like things that don’t come so easily…no one does. 😉
Plus, even though i’m extremely attracted to him, i’m soo attracted to him it’s ferocious…i’m a chick that is looking for my perfect perfect connection, the man of my dreams…the buy that i’m gonna do life with in the end…and the guy i choose needs to be on that wave length also.
Everything is about energy and chemistry and i’ve always felt unfulfilled in that department when it’s comes to my relationships. I’m a good girlfriend, a really good one. (You could even ask my exes.) Yet, i’m never 100 percent fulfilled and that’s because i’m not lucky enough to have found the right guy. This guy..would fulfil me…as our chemistry is over powering. It’s dynamite and for someone like me…that’s the kinda guy that I should be doing life with..as whenever i’ve done ‘simple’ it hasn’t ever really worked for me. The ‘sizzle’ sort of lacked. Yet, with him, i’m aware that the newness of it, the freshness of doing after work cocktails is exciting to him. Once the excitement has gone…would be bothered? But i always think if a boy is bothered, he’ll prove it to you, if he’s not…he won’t. I’m a girl that wants to be swept off my feet and simply because that never hardly happens.
Great night. In fact, an Amazing night. I won’t sell it short as we watched the time like hawks as we both didn’t want it to end. He’s done his research, he’s read the blog, he asked me about my marriage, the Spanish Doctor, boys in general that he had read about…and i liked that…as he didn’t go into this blind. Means, he’s clever, which i find sexy. He’s open and honest but plays his cards close to his chest. I like him, he’s hot…i kinda wish he could be mine.
When it was almost time for me to go..we felt it…there was this awful cloud that surrounded us…this ‘i don’t want to leave’ you ness that murked around us both…we weren’t ready to finish up yet…but had to.
We had a weird moment of just looking, charmingly smiling at one another for 10 minutes and saying ‘Hmmm…’ back and forth as the tension and magnetism was far too alive and we didn’t know what to do with ourselves. REMEMBER that we were only on after work drinks. Yes, we both fancy each other…but technically it was just a ‘friendly.’ I tried to pay for half of the bill and he told me not to ‘demasculine’ him. Lol. I find that sexy.
Then we walked outside and kissed.
Slowly and passionately kissed. It was sexy, he’s sexy…yet filled with this frustration as we felt we had to rein it in.
We walked arm in arm to my ‘bye bye’s’ and kissed some more, to the point where it actually accidentally turned romantic. My whole method of transport home waited for us to finish smooching…
I will tell you that nothing felt harder than having life ply us away from one another, until the next time…if there is going to be a next time…as he never said there was one…
But he slowly waved me off…like we didn’t want to leave one another…and well we messaged all the way home. to relieve the frustration…
That is what i call chemistry…(and that’s after i had a chick friend of mine bad mouth him and tell me what an actual dick he is and for the majority of my morning..as we share a mutual friend.)
I wonder what he thinks?
The situation of it all is going to prove to be difficult….and don’t want it to be as i think if a guy treasures you or knows that he wants you to be his, he’ll go for it regardless because he wouldn’t want to risk losing out.
Yet now he’s done drinks…he might now have quenched his curiosity…and well…go back to enjoying life…as he’ll be on a timer now. I like this one…and i never ever like guys that much…I like him….He’s a good balance of everything and exactly what i need and what i’ looking for…