Single Life at 30 & A Dash of Co..Parenting

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I cannot even tell you how wonderful it feels right now to be a 30 something ‘Singleton’ with a glow of warmth and love, yet without this bizarre ‘NEED’ for it in return and I don’t mean all this in an ‘Ooh I can get sexy with any handsome i want and be their bed warmer for kicks and no strings.’ (I’m a chick, it’s just not how we roll emotionally. We’re not wired that way. There’s always something else going on in our heads isn’t there. Lol. Tragic but true. I am naturally an unconventional traditionalist. πŸ™‚ I like things to be done the correct way, but with a happy/funny/or positive Wunna Twist.) What I mean by all the ‘Happy Singleton’ things is that my world is utterly and COMPLETELY DRAMA FREE because of it and gosh that is BLISS!

I hearing, watching and seeing partnerships be filled with ‘smog,’ …and not that i’m smug or anything….but i’m totally smug and everything πŸ™‚ because i have none of those negative vibes dancing around my bubble and instead it is shimming through with light, love and fun. This Christmas I am all about The Wunna Babies, life and family and let me tell you my boat is fully afloat! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ I’m beaming! I’ve had a great year, I’ m on a 9 day birthday countdown and i’m smashing it!

Like i said before in a previous blog, i seem empowering because i’m positive. I believe i’m powerful because of my thoughts and the fact that i can express them. I’m always one to believe that being single doesn’t THESE DAYS mean that you’re ‘no good.’ It means that you know what you want and you are not willing to just settle or tie yourself down to something that isn’t exactly right for you, and instead be smart enough to wait for the right human with the right soul. It no longer means standing at the back of a gymnasium, by the rail because no one wants to dance with you. TODAY, being a single 30 something means you can just leave whenever you feel because the party wasn’t good enough. πŸ™‚ And feeling powerful makes you a million times more attractive. πŸ™‚ My mojo is great right now, i should bottle it up and sell it to you. πŸ˜‰

Anyway, preach over. Life!

Lot’s has happened. I have four days off work. I’m at Tiger Tiger Leeds tonight to celebrate achievements via the fine art of cocktailing and good times! I’m excited as I adore a good time in any shape or form.

Junior’s got a snotty nose. Ruby has broken up from school for Christmas and her Daddy (Pete) and I did Posh Lunch with her yesterday at Ego to make her smile. If anything Pete, Keiran and I co parent those kids like champions. Yes, it’s odd, but no one does it better than us and it’s a really hard thing to understand unless you know us personally. But we parent the children together. To be honest, both boys are going through their own dramas right now, be it in life or love…but when all’s said and done, we’re a family (and incase you have just tuned in, they are the two daddies to my two babies) and there’s a great deal of respect, laughter and love that it shared between us. I mean we’ll have our ups, downs and inbetweens at times, not often, as we get on so well. We have boyfriends and girlfriends venture in and out of the bubble…again…not often. I mean, when I dated Ben ages ago, he was great with Junior, yet rubbish with Ruby, he just didn’t understand and always tried to be her friend, yet would ‘naughty step’ her when HE couldn’t handle the situation. It got to a point where Ruby didn’t even want to be in the home around him…so immediately he was ‘Voted off the island.’ And that’s how it sort of works in Wunna land.

Harsh I know. It’s hard to date us as individuals….even without all this parenting stuff sprinkled on. Lol.

But what we do well is prioritise the children in our lives. What they want and what they need comes first and mainly because neither Pete, Keiran or I are that ‘needy’ really when it comes to love. All three of us are quite independant which makes putting Ruby and Baby J first, really easy. Β I took Ruby to the park after lunch yesterday and there was a moment when she was swinging on the swing, I was pushing her, she was laid back in this orange swing, with her face looking up to the sky and her eyes closed. I watched her and asked her how she felt? How life was? And her simple reply, as she looked in utter peace and overwhelmed with glee was ‘I don’t feel good Mum. I feel GREAT! I’m really happy.’ (Her eyes still closed, her face still smiling up to the sky as she swung merrily.)

And that’s how we know that we’re doing an alright job….

A great thing about yesterday was that I bumped in my good friend Vicky. She found me on the street, adopted me and took to school (we have kids in the same school) for Christmas market trinket shopping and coffee. I’m a Prosecco Mum not a PSA Mum so i never know that things like this are going on. But it was good to see her and she’s always so filled with love and banter. We had a giggle, she borrowed my pen, wrote out my own Christmas card with it, infront of me, sealed it, signed it to me and handed it over. Lol. HAHAHA. I love it! Hilarious.

There was a glow about her yesterday as Vicky in her 40’s, found love in her 40’s (she looks like she’s just about to turn 30) and she is about to marry the man of her dreams. So she’s glowing. She asked HIM (Guy) to marry her. Sexy isn’t it! And if that isn’t girl power than i don’t know what is!! She’s always told me to hold out and wait for the ‘life enhancer.’ The guy that comes in, sweeps you off your feet, fixes things positively, lives with you, enjoys the world the way you do, loves you how you want to be loved and enhances your life. If you’re in a relationship and you do not have that, then you are with the wrong human and selling yourself short.

I’ve got a really busy day today, so i need to head off!

I’m at Tiger Tiger Leeds tonight!!

See ya. x