I’ve had a busy one! Today felt REAL. It felt ‘back to normal.’ It kinda of *zooshed* by. In fact, the ‘busy’ sprung out of nowhere with a *B’BOOM* and those of you who have followed this blog and entangled your way into my mind, KNOW that I adore a bit of ‘busy,’ I thrive off it and *can can* kick it, like a some kind of ‘Boss’ Queen. I’m excited by the bustle of busy because it puts your worth and talents to use.
YET, there was definitely a moment where in which I was ‘face to face’staring at a ‘Fairytale Blond,’ both of us with a busy phone attached to our ears, having a busy conversation, with other busy people and as every other phone, in what seemed like ALL of the busy land, began to ring non stop! It was crazy! We needed octopus arms, gin, an army or…gin. It was fun…and did I say…busy? 🙂
Good day! Flew by!
But GOD! I should’ve shut my kitty mouth about guys and dating last night on the blog, shouldn’t I! Lol. I’m not sure what happened exactly? But my inbox sizzled up and became full of ‘Let’s go out’s’ and ‘Meet me’s!’ I can’t meet EVERYONE! I didn’t mean I was going on dates with every single stranger with a laptop or iphone thumbs! Lol.
I’m always one to think that life dances people into your path, who you’re meant to meet. You actually build a rapport together without you knowing and that rapport develops. I don’t find it easy just to meet people I don’t know in REAL life, who have only *typed* at me, unless i’m REALLY into them, OR i’ve really gotten to know them. That’s why it’s better for you to run into me in person, befriend me or send me a video, or a snapchat. Doesn’t that sound so unromantic. Lol. But it’s a new world, a new century, so i might as well just go with it.
PLUS, now that my schedule has busied up (and you can also add babies into this equation) i’m noticing that i’m quite picky because in the time that I have free, I want to make sure i’ve spent it with someone GREAT, if i’m going to. Someone who’s a lot of fun. Or someone’s who’s really inspiring. Or someone who’s hilarious or so interesting i’m hooked. I’m really picky by nature anyway when it comes to love..Some may say ‘shallow.’ 🙂 Shut up ‘Firmmonell! But i’m not fussy ‘picky.’ I’m just ‘know what I want’ picky and that’s really different, as i’m not high maintenance AT ALL. I’m just in such a good place emotionally and in life in general right now, that i’m willing to hold out for someone who’s really right for me. And i’m sure that’s what you all want to for yourselves.
I mean GOD, I already had some sweet guy blow it because he tried to be what he THOUGHT I wanted him to be, instead of just himself. Why do we do that? I’ve done it in the past. I’m guilty as charged. So, i’m not at all ‘finger pointing.’ I’m just glad I don’t do it now. But i understand it completely.
Now listen boys! Rules of dating! If you actually like a girl, a lady…a GLAMOUR PUSS…and you want her to take your advances seriously (and this guy did, as even though I never really replied to him….Every day, he would ask to meet me, or send me a sweet picture of himself with love hearts and ‘Good Mornings’ and stuff of that nature. Never rude. Always normal. Seemingly kind.)
Tonight….he messed up.
This is what you never say to me,
‘Can we be fuck buddies?’
After I politely responded with a ‘NO,’ he didn’t then decide to use his brain. He didn’t think to save it with a humour or flattery or anything! He panicked and instead he went with,
‘What? Well it’s not like I want to marry you anything?’
(ALL THE WORST THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO A GIRL. Haha!)
By now, in my head, he’s scribbled himself out of Wunna Land by accident. LOL. So i thought I’d make it worse, because i’m kind 🙂 ….and say,
‘Shame, as i’d be looking for someone who would want to marry me rather than just bone me.’
(Because I know he didn’t mean it… He’s sweet really, but just said all the wrong things.)
‘Make up your mind! What do you want? I’m trying to be this and i’m trying to be that and…’
AND THAT IS WHERE IT ALL GOES WRONG!
Y’see, you shouldn’t have to try and change who you are to meander around what you THINK a person would like, because if you don’t actually know that girl or guy personally, then assuming how they want you to BE may not be the best approach.
Get to know them properly, I mean, don’t be scared to get to know them properly. Go for it. And if they don’t want to get to know you, it’s their loss! You tried. And boy’s yes, you need to be forward, yet you need to be gentlemen.
Go for it! But don’t balls it up!!
Ten minutes later, I was laid ontop of my bed after work, in my black and white pinstriped work shirt, watching Steven Bartlett’s ‘New Year in Singapore’ Vlog, like I do every evening to unwind. I find it comforting and easy to watch. (I guess, it’s just the same as those of you who find yourself popping into Wunna land for a casual blog read.) I just find Bartlett exceedingly interesting. He’s really talented.
Anyway, I’d been waiting for his next Vlog for ages. I was on Snapchat faffing around with the filters. Then BOOM just like that, his new Vlog had been uploaded and I was so happy when it finally posted and even happier when he uttered this sentence on Snapchat…
‘Send me a snap of you watching my Vlog and i will reply… with a video.’
WHAT!!!!???!!! AMAZING! Sent a snap in a second. LOL. (I’m ridiculous, I know. But I can’t hep it. I’m a huge Bartlett Fan.)
Got my *Video Snap* from him straight away.
He was there in his hat. He thanked me, had Pablo the puppy on his knee, who was doing some cute ‘stretchy chin thing,‘ on a desk that was infront of them.
Then I heard, what I thought was music, but it was his computer? And with a glint in his eye and a dash of excitement he *popped up* with a fun…
‘My Coachella tickets are ready!!!’
And that was my Bartlett video snap!
I loved it. How fun! Good idea right! I’ll have to steal it!
I sent him a ‘thank you’ video snap back.
But it was ace because I loved actually peeking into a tiny bit of his ‘real life’ world. It was also great because it sort of helped me understand how people may feel, when they actually get to peek into Wunna land.
Then just as I sat up and reached for my wine…my Whatsapp *notified’ my attention.
It was a message from ‘London Business Man…’ Uncanny timing, after the brief mention on yesterday’s blog. I like good timing…and good old male bravery.
All it read was,
‘So when are we catching up. xxx’